Since several of you have asked me (several times) to show the runners up for my Mother of the Groom dress, I will go ahead and do it even though the only pictures I have of those dresses are pretty terrible. Not to mention awful. I wasn’t wearing much make up, my hair was awry and I didn’t have on proper shoes—not to mention that the pictures are very much on the blurry side.
But hey. You all make me happy by reading my blog so I will do my best to make you all happy by doing my best to honor your requests for certain post topics. So here we go!
Dress Number One
I liked this one pretty well although it would have had to have been taken in on the sides of the bodice since I had to get it one size larger to accommodate my, um, capacious hips. It was sort of a bronze, champagne color and it would have done fine if nothing else was available; however, I didn’t truly love it.
Dress Number Two
I liked this one pretty well in the store but once I got it home, it just felt more, I don’t know, conservative than what I was looking for. (Although hemming it just above the knees would have helped jazz it up a little.) I did love the green color, though.
Dress Number Three
This one was a strong contender. I loved its classic, sophisticated design and I thought the color was good on me. The two drawbacks were: 1) I knew it was going to be a bright and colorful wedding and I didn’t love the idea of wearing a “non color.” 2) It would have had to be hemmed and while I have a great seamstress who does my basic alterations, I knew that to turn a gown into a knee length dress is not just about hemming, it’s also about being able to accommodate the flow and the drape of the design so that it still looks right when it’s in a shorter length. I just wasn’t sure if my seamstress had done that sort of thing a lot and I was nervous about it not working out well. So I put this on the “I’ll wear this if I don’t find anything else" shelf. (Note: all dresses came from Dillards.)
At this point in the MOG Dress Choosing Process, it was about two weeks before the wedding and I was starting to feel just a teeny bit of stress. And you have to understand that where we live, it’s at least a four-hour round trip to any sort of major shopping center so just getting to a store is expensive and time consuming. I had looked around on the Internet when I first started shopping just to get some ideas, but I hadn’t really considered actually ordering something that way. By that point in the process though, I thought it might be time to give online ordering a whirl.
I browsed between different major department store sites and found that most of the dresses that I really loved were just way too expensive; I finally made my way to the Dillards website and found two possibilities. Since I couldn’t make up my mind, I ordered them both, knowing I could return them at any Dillards store.
The first dress just didn’t do well on me. It was too short and the big bow (which looked really good on the model in the picture) made me feel like I had an unseemly growth emanating from my middle And my middle emanates enough “growth” on its own, thank you very much. (I saw a quote recently that said, “Middle age is when your age shows up around your middle.)
Dress Number Five
But the second dress I ordered? Ladies and gentlemen, we had us a winner!
I loved the length of it and the special detailing on the bodice and sleeves. The color was vibrant and seemed like it would be a good fit for a colorful, Florida wedding. The only alteration needed was for it to be taken in on the sides of the bodice. (Once again, I had to order a bigger size to accommodate my, ahem, you know.)
I really liked the detailing in the back because the piece that stuck out from the shoulder helped to balance out the “wider area” below. And I’m all about Wide Area Balancing Out.
So there you have it. The Dress Decision was made.
And just because I absolutely love messing with pictures and graphics, here is the dress (and I) in several artistic permutations.
L in Alaska said, “I must say, I am so impressed with Meagan's CRAFTY dad! Has he always been so talented? Did he take a class on flower arranging? Did Steve help him out at all?”
Actually, we had no idea Frank had a crafty side until this wedding. It’s amazing the cool stuff you learn about people along the way. As to whether or not he took a class in floral arranging, I have no idea; however, I tend to think he just found that he had a knack for it and went ahead and did it. And since he had the vast majority of the work done before we arrived in town, no, Steve did not help him at all. Although, the only help Steve would have been able to offer in this particular department would be, “Keep it up, Frank; you’re doin’ great!” Steve has a very long list of talents but floral arranging probably isn’t one of them. (Although he has an excellent eye for color and design so who knows? He might actually be good at it.)
(There were several comments/questions about the cake reception so I’ll just post them all together.)
Margie said, “I'm glad I'm not the only one who had never heard of a cake reception but it sounds lovely. Also there would be no problem having room for desert if it came first.”
Love Being a Nonny said, “I love that you are taking us through the wedding. I have never heard of a cake reception after the ceremony before the lunch...but I love the idea!”
Gayle in AL said, “I haven't ever heard of a cake reception either. Was the luncheon just for a select group of people? And just out of curiosity, why wasn't the wedding held at Meagan's family church? I love hearing all of the wedding details! Keep 'em coming!”
Gayle, the wedding was held at a different church because Meagan’s family’s church wasn’t large enough to hold everyone.
As for the cake reception, Nathan and Meagan stood in the lobby and greeted all the guests as they went outside to the lovely veranda outside the church where lovely sprawling trees shaded a canopied cake table, tables, lovely punch decanters, artistically arranged, colorful napkins and many varieties of flowers. That is where Nathan and Meagan cut their wedding cake and took their first bite. It was a great place for the guests to mingle and to talk with Nathan and Meagan and visit with each other--fun, informal, joyful.
An hour or so later, there was a luncheon held for family members and close friends of both families. When I posted the pictures last week of the wedding party leaving in a motor home, that’s where they were going—from the wedding site to the luncheon site.
Guerrina, I couldn’t agree with you more—simpler wedding celebrations are sweet and lovely. One of the things that impressed me the most about Nathan and Meagan’s wedding was how much they were able to do with limited resources. A little bit of creativity goes a long way!
Deb in Green Bay said, “Becky, since you are from WI, too, I am guessing that you will remember we do weddings differently up here.... the wedding is held either late morning or early afternoon (same as down there), then pictures etc, for the bridal party; but the bride's parents will host out-of-town guests with refreshments/ snacks usually at their home or another location.
Then around 4 or 5 guests begin meeting at the rented hall for cocktail hour/dinner/dancing concluding around midnight. I remember when my brother got married in Texas they served a formal lunch immediately after the ceremony and everything was complete by late afternoon/early evening. I found that so odd and I wonder if you do/did as well?
On another note, I absolutely love the colors Megan chose for her wedding.....beautiful!!!”
Deb, as for your brother’s wedding where everything was over by early evening, I actually love that idea! (Maybe I have a little bit of Texan in me.) I think it’s a nice thing when the newlyweds aren’t getting to their hotel room at midnight because by that point in the day, they don’t have a lot of energy left over for each other. When Nathan and Meagan left the reception at about 5 pm, I remember thinking, “Oh, I am so glad they still have some moments of this special day that are just for them.”
However, I’m also aware that some weddings don’t even start until 6 or 7 in the evening, so those would go really late into the night. (Can you tell I love being in bed by 9 pm whenever possible and get overwhelmed by the thought of staying up till midnight for anything?)
I know the bottom line that we all agree on is that weddings should be started and ended at whatever time makes the bride and groom the happiest!
And Finally . . .
Deb, it was so much fun reading what you wrote about wedding traditions in Wisconsin. If any other readers would like to share your wedding traditions from your part of the country (or the world) please do. I think it would be fascinating to get a glimpse into how other people celebrate this most special of days.