Thursday, October 1, 2009

Good Marriages Are Like That

My sister, Debbie, just called and said that Mom had a seizure this morning when she was in the bathroom. She fell and hit something hard, breaking her collarbone in six places. My nephew was staying with her but he was at the other end of the house and didn't hear anything.

After she has a seizure, Mom isn't always able to think clearly; instead of calling for help, she went and lay back down on her bed. When Ben left for work, he didn't hear anything from her room and assumed she was taking a nap.

My brother and sister-in-law were already planning to pick her up at 10 am to take her to the hospital to have her stitches removed (she was diagnosed with skin cancer last week) and finally found her.

Mom
and Dad always took such good care of each other over their fifty-three years of marriage. This was her first health crisis ever when he wasn't there and I know that must have made it all the more traumatic for her.

I will never forget being in Walmart with them many years ago when she had a seizure and crashed down to the floor. Dad was instantly beside her, cradling her head, saying he loved her, smoothing her hair, comforting her, even though she couldn't hear him.

I think even now he is comforting her, even though she can't hear. Good marriages are like that.

(Excuse me while I go and cry.)

11 Had Something To Say (Just click here!):

Debbie said...

Oh, Becky. I am so sorry. Crying with you and praying for peace and understanding.

Pam D said...

I'm so sorry, Becky. And I'm so glad that I read the post before this one BEFORE commenting. Sometimes, He calms the storm, and sometimes, He calms the child. Amen. Praying.. that He is calming you as no one else can, and that you feel the blessed assurance that He is calming your mother, as well.
Love and hugs... and many prayers..

MaryH said...

My heart goes out to you, Becky. My prayers go out to your mom. You are absolutely correct, your Dad was right by her side and I am sure she felt his presence. I hope she recovers peacefully and quickly. There is so much your heart is required to handle right now. I wish it was easier for you.

Anonymous said...

Becky I will keep her in my prayers.

Margie

Anonymous said...

Becky
I am so sorry for your Mom and for Ben. I imagine he feels terrible that he didn't realize what had happened.

mrs pam

Anonymous said...

Oh Becky...I'm so sorry to read about your Mom. I know it must be so hard for you to be far away from her. My heart goes out to you and her.

Yes, surely your Dad's spirit is near her...and I KNOW God's spirit is there. Prayers are with you and with her. And as Pam D said...praying that He is calming you and her the way no one else can.

Will be thinking of you all this weekend.

I'll go through some of my recipes and see if I can find a couple to recommend.

Sandy/Clayton

Marysienka said...

Oh I'm sorry to hear about your mom :( After what happened to your nephew, it's not something that your family needed!
I'm sending lots of (healing) love your way!
((hugs))

Renee

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry....

Kim said...

I am so sorry Becky. I teared up just reading this and I don't even really "know" you. I am praying for you and your mom. I am sure it is hard for you to be away from her at this time.
*smiles and a hug*
Kim

Lesley said...

Oh Becky, this is so hard :( Your poor mom. I hope she recovers quickly. Broken collarbones are painful.
I know how hard it is to be far from your loved ones when they are hurt or sick. Hugs.

Anonymous said...

This post brought me to tears. Prayers for healing and minimal pain for Mom. Perhaps, you can post her address again (or email me) with the info (Debbie if you see this before Becky maybe you can help)so that I can drop her a note or two wishing her a super, speedy recovery. Love, Jodi